With the house full of family and guests, your kids don't have the free-reign of your home that they are used to. As host, it is up to you to relay information on privacy and boundaries and how these principles are to be carried out. Rooms and items may need to be declared off-limits or boundaries can be reset for the holidays.
Get Them Involved
Give your kids host duties. You don't need to give them huge responsibilities, but putting them in charge of simple tasks allows them to feel included in the family affairs rather than making them feel like guests themselves when the household shifts to accommodate holiday visitors. Assign tasks like setting up the breakfast table with drinkware or stocking the guests' linens every day to keep things simple. It will take a load off you and keep the kids occupied.
Set A Schedule
Give your kids times and places for meals, chores and events. Give them an opportunity to contribute ideas to what goes in the schedule and ask them for feedback for the planned events. Post the schedule on the refrigerator or chalkboard so they know everything that is going on at all times in case you're not around to answer questions.
Just like your guests, your kids will have plenty of free time. While sitting in front of the TV or playing videogames is an easy option for occupying the kids, planning activities to include them and your guests creates a bonding opportunity for your family and friends. Ice skating, a tour of a local attraction, or a production of The Nutcracker gives everyone something to talk about and connect over as well as give them something to do outside the house.
Hosting guests is a fun ritual, but it can be exhausting for everyone involved. Creating structure for your kids can ease the stress of the holidays and they won't feel lost in the chaos.