New Year, New Mom:
Tips For Finding Mom Friends
Being a new parent is tough. There are so many things to adjust to and learn, it can be overwhelming if you don't have support. Circumstances like moving to a new neighborhood or city can make it even more difficult. Most moms need support and human connections; there are hundred of thousands of moms going through the same things and, in most circumstances, it's better to do it together. Here are a few tips for finding new mom friends.
Before The Big Day
It's never too early to look for mom friends. Be on the lookout for expecting mothers in your lamaze class or in the doctor's office while you're still pregnant. Strike up a conversation and make a new connection with someone you think might be like-minded. Invite other pregnant moms to tea and start building your network. It might feel a little awkward at first, but they're all in the same boat. They likely will welcome new mom friends having similar experiences.
Have Some Faith
Churches typically have play groups and day care, as well as groups designed just for moms in their congregations. Some groups are very structured in faith teachings, and there are others that have loose and relaxed groups where moms trade ideas and suggestions about handling motherhood. If you're not affiliated with a church but like having religious support, there are churches that accept moms who are not in the congregation.
Say Yes, Sign Up
It's easy to get focused on your baby and closing yourself off to the rest of the world -- you get busy, it happens. But don't let the world go on without you; you don't want dinosaur toys and baby dolls to be your only social connections! Remember to say yes when you're asked to do something and sign up for activities you might not otherwise take part in. The more you do, the more people you meet to get and give a little more support.
Be on the lookout for groups on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest in your community. They're there for the same things you are, so start following the groups and discussions and take part in the activities to build your own mom network.
Once you give birth and you're started on a routine, start thinking about the things you like to do. Knitting, reading, yoga, crafting -- there are classes for just about everything with a mom-spin to it. Classes put you in a room with other like-minded moms, so you'll have something to bond over aside from having little ones.
It's easy to get carried away with all the different groups you might want to be part of, but when you spread yourself too thin, it's hard to be consistent. Pick one or two groups you connect with and really foster those relationships. That means showing up for most of the events and outings and making yourself available to other moms. It's a way to get to know the other moms and build friendships.